Although everyone gets moody from time to time, it’s important to recognize howmoody your parent was while you were growing up. Christi Garner, LMFT, Psychotherapist Online, who spent 10 years as a therapist for domestic violence survivors and sexually abused children, agrees. “If a parent’s mood swings made you feel like you were always walking on eggshells and you were always nervous or scared of what would happen when they were around (even if nothing ‘bad’ ever happened), that’s emotionally abusive behavior,” she tells Bustle.
She says that children who were always waiting for the other shoe to drop or always anxious they’d make a mistake and cause something bad to happen also show higher levels of health problems later in life. “This higher level of stress while growing up causes changes in the body and brain, and can have long-term effects on health,” Garner says.